I love Dr. Gabor Mate’s Five A's of Healing. Awareness Authenticity Acceptance (embrace the present) Agency (champion your own healing)
And finally; 𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 (𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫) 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐜:
Now, when we talk about 'healthy anger,' it's a concept that might raise eyebrows. But it's truly transformative. Healthy Anger isn't about rage or resentment; it's about establishing boundaries and showing how we should be treated. It protects us, reminds people of our worth, and instills a deep sense of self-esteem in us. It’s a must, not a maybe!
As a young child, I remember silencing my own healthy Anger for fear of jeopardizing my connection with my father or facing consequences. Little Me did not feel safe expressing his healthy Anger. The scars from those moments lingered, manifesting later in life as destructive Anger that wreaked havoc on my relationships and well-being. I remember saying, I don't want to be angry like my father.
"When you shut down emotion, you're also affecting your immune system, your nervous system. So the repression of emotion, which is a survival strategy, then becomes a source of physiological illness later on." ~ Gabor Mate
For goodness sake, practice "Healthy Anger"; our health depends on it. First, we must befriend the guilt that tells us not to express it. It is just the Adult You – who believes you are still a little person who has to hold an attachment and throw out your Authenticity.
My appeal to each one of you is to introspect. Recognize your triggers, understand the root of your Anger, and strive to channel it constructively. If you find this overwhelming, please consider therapy. Remember, healing isn't an overnight process; it's a journey we embark on, bringing us closer to peace and understanding each day.
By the way, addiction was how I dealt with my suppressed emotions; it took away the pain only temporarily and almost cost me my life.
We've all witnessed or felt the aftermath of unchecked Anger, which can destroy bonds and create chaos. And yet, so often, society pushes us to dismiss it or asks the victims to tolerate it. But Anger, when left unaddressed, isn't just a menace to our emotional well-being; it's a threat to our physical health.
Wishing everyone strength, love, and serenity.