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Life is a journey, not a destination. ~ from the song “Amazing” by Aerosmith

My Life was, and continues to be, a journey of awakening. If you are reading this, chances are you are ready to start this journey for yourself. Whoever you are, the unadorned truth of human existence is that there is no destination. Had I believed there was such a thing and focused exclusively on it, I would not be alive today.

So many times during my miserable, addictive life, it felt like I'd reached the end, and I wanted to give up, but somehow, I didn't. To this day, it blows my mind that I survived and am now thriving. 


I had a powerful awakening of consciousness and became aware that LOVE is my true state of BEING and was always within, even when I could barely feel ITS flame. LOVE is what kept me going. Somewhere within me, I knew ALL IS WELL.


"All Addictions Come Out of Pain. 

  All Recovery Comes Out of Love."


Trust me; spiritual awakening is not for the faint of heart. Everything must fall apart before things can change. It is the way of nature. Old patterns, perceptions, beliefs, fears, thoughts, emotions, and ideas need to collapse because they are the real reasons we suffer, develop addictions and other negative behaviors, and not change.


"Our real issue is Mistaken Identity, not knowing the innate truth of who we really are."


I had a crisis of consciousness, an identity crisis of the soul whereby I could no longer accept my old "self."  However, my old identity desperately wanted to live, but I had to be willing to sit with my pain without self-medicating; it was the only way through. I had to stand my ground and allow the old self (Mistaken Identity) to die so that my true nature (LOVE) could live.

We can scream, cry, and stomp, but don't try to keep it all together because our old self must crumble so we can experience our true nature: LOVE.


Remember: There is nothing to fix. There is nothing to change. Allow the identity crisis to arise from its darkness, and the awakening will unfold.

"Those who have been to the darkest places will experience an equal, opposite LIGHT when they finally recover. It is not personal, it’s Newton’s third law of physics: for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction." 


I invite all readers to remove the disguise, to further explore that knowing, and to experience the miracle of who you are in deeper, ever-expanding ways.


Don't give up on your glorious opportunity to finally wake up and know that you are enough and will always be enough because you are already the LIGHT you seek.


I am here as a guide to help you remember your authentic self and get in touch with your true essence of love, peace, and joy.

A Deeper Dive into the Compassion Inquiry Approach that I used with my Clients:

Gabor Maté's unique approach, Compassionate Inquiry (CI), stands out among psychotherapeutic methods. It delves deep into the mental, emotional, and physical layers, uncovering the core truths of an individual's pain or challenges. Developed by Dr. Gabor Maté, a renowned physician and author, Compassionate Inquiry is a powerful tool that aims to reveal what lies beneath the surface we present to the world.

The method focuses on gently yet powerfully guiding individuals through self-discovery. It emphasizes the role of compassion and mindfulness, allowing individuals to approach their deepest vulnerabilities without judgment. Compassionate Inquiry seeks to access the unconscious dynamics that dictate human behavior and influence emotional and physical well-being.

Critical features of Compassionate Inquiry include:

  1. Presence: Therapists and clients remain fully present, attending closely to what arises during the session without judgment or distraction.

  2. Safety and trust: Creating a safe space is crucial, as it allows individuals to open up about deep-seated issues and traumas.

  3. Exploration of the body and emotions: CI integrates bodily and emotional exploration, recognizing that unresolved trauma and pain often manifest physically.

  4. Connection to the true self: The process involves connecting with the innermost aspects of oneself, which layers of social conditioning and adaptive behaviors can often obscure.


Let's delve into a practical example of Compassionate Inquiry in action: 

Imagine a patient struggling with addiction. In a CI session, the therapist wouldn't just focus on the addiction or prevention strategies. Instead, they would guide the patient to explore the emotional truths and past experiences that underlie their addictive behaviors. This might involve revisiting early childhood interactions, exploring emotional responses, and observing body sensations that arise during these discussions. The aim is to unearth the root causes of behaviors and cultivate a deep understanding and compassion towards oneself, which can pave the way for healing and transformation.

Compassionate Inquiry is not just about conversation; it's about experiencing and observing the truths that emerge when one is seen, heard, and not judged. This versatile approach has been applied in diverse settings, including addiction treatment, therapy, and personal development, making it a valuable tool for professionals and individuals.




How I discovered my true nature.

  • Trained in CI - Compassion Inquiry - Gabor Mate MD, One Year Intensive Course for therapists. Which covers healing of trauma, grief, addictions, and other issues.   

  • The Heart of Trauma workshop with Gabor Mate MD

  • Suicide Intervention and Prevention.

  • CBT Cognitive Behavioral Therapy DBT Dialectical Behavioral Therapy 

  • 17 years of studying and teaching Meditation

  • 30 years fitness/health expert

  • First Aid and CPR 

  • A person of long-term recovery. 

  • Author "Mistaken Identity - The Sacred Journey from Addiction to Awakening.

  • Director of Health/Wellness and Marketing at Two Treatment Centres

  • Been on a spiritual awakening for 26 years

  • Facilitator of the Family Program, Aftercare and Continuing Care Programs at Treatment Centre

  • Worked for four well known Treatment Centres. 

“The purpose of Compassionate Inquiry is to drill down to the core stories people tell themselves – to get them to see what story they are telling themselves unconsciously; what those beliefs are, where they came from; and guide them to the possibility of letting go of those stories, or letting go of the hold those stories have on them … That’s what Compassionate Inquiry is.”~ Dr. Gabor Maté

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