Thinking we can change someone’s behavior by how much we love them is a fantasy story we tell ourselves. It’s not based on reality.

We hear much about childhood trauma but little about the trauma that happens in adulthood. It has a lot to do with our perception of what...

"We spend our childhood wanting to grow up and spend our adulthood trying to undo our childhood." – Paul Noiles. The problem is that many...

A person with codependency believes their well-being depends on controlling and changing another person’s behavior.

Like an onion, I painful peeled layers of my Mistaken Identity.

Are you addicted to suffering?

When we try to control and cling, we waste our energy trying to force or manage things to conform to our will. But when we let go, we...

A codependent person is someone who has let another person's behaviour affect them in such a way that they are obsessed with trying to...